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Support survivors & end domestic violence

The month of October is widely recognized as Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM). It’s a time to have meaningful conversations about family violence and to celebrate survivors. The goal is that raising awareness will spark action that results in meaningful change.

What is domestic violence?
Domestic violence (also called intimate partner violence (IPV), domestic abuse or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.

Forms of abuse
Physical, emotional, financial, digital and sexual/reproductive abuse & coercion

Who’s impacted?
Domestic violence does not discriminate. Anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender can be a victim – or perpetrator – of domestic violence. It can happen to people who are married, living together or who are dating. It affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.

You may be in an abusive relationship if your partner…

– Tells you that you can never do anything right
– Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away
– Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members
– Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs
– Controls every penny spent in the household
– Takes your money or refuses to give you money for necessary expenses
– Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you
– Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do
– Prevents you from making your own decisions

10 ways to help someone dealing with domestic violence
1) Believe them.
2) Reassure them the abuse is not their fault.
3) Listen to what they are saying.
4) Encourage them to speak with someone about safety planning.
5) Respect the decisions they make.
6) Ask what type of support would be helpful.
7) Provide a safe time and place for them to share their story.
8) Don’t assume they will end the relationship and don’t pressure them to do so.
9) Maintain their privacy. Don’t talk negatively about them or their abuser in public or online.
10) Supporting someone who is struggling can be

During DVAM we’re asking people to share #1thing about domestic violence. This open-ended offer has sparked some interesting conversations. Join the conversation by visiting Sojourner on Facebook and searching the hashtag #1thing.

Special thanks to our 2019 DVAM campaign underwriter: