24-hour Domestic Violence Crisis Hotline
Call: 414-933-2722 | Text: 414-877-8100

Know Your Risk

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Call 911 if you are in immediate danger!

Domestic abuse can be deadly — even if your partner has never hurt you before.

There are red flags that can tell you if you’re at higher risk.

You are more likely to be seriously hurt or killed if your partner:

  • Threatens to kill you
  • Doesn’t have a job
  • Chokes you
  • Has a gun
  • Is jealous and/or controlling
  • Has tried to kill themselves
  • Follows you, spies on you or leaves threatening messages for you
  • Has threatened you with a weapon

You are also more likely to be hurt or killed if you:

  • Have a child with someone else
  • Have tried to leave the relationship before
  • Believe that your partner could kill you
  • Have tried to kill yourself
There are many other red flags for homicide. We can help you determine your risk level.

Our Advocates are available 24/7 to help you. Call (414) 933-2722 and ask for a confidential lethality or danger assessment.

What can I do?

Talk to someone about your experiences in your relationship. Being isolated increases your risk.

People who reach out for help are more likely to survive, even if they remain in their relationship.

Tell someone

In the U.S., at least 1/3 of domestic violence-related murders had no reported history of physical abuse.

Domestic violence-related homicide victims are often isolated from friends and family, contributing to surprise or suddenness expressed by others.

“I had no idea anything was wrong.”

It is not uncommon for the homicide to be the first, only, and last act of physical abuse.

Sojourner can help:

When you call Sojourner, we will not tell you what to do — your decisions are your own.

We will:

  • Keep your information confidential
  • Listen
  • Not judge
  • Help you understand what your options are
  • Help assess your danger and discuss safety planning
  • Support you as you decide what is best for you
  • Talk about ways to be safer
  • Make sure you know about resources you might need

If you don’t call Sojourner, please find help elsewhere.

When to call the police:

In case of an emergency, call 911.

If they threaten to kill you, believe them.

Sojourner Advocates can help you work with law enforcement to stay safe and understand your rights.

Other places to seek help:

Domestic violence impacts people of all races, creeds, genders, zip codes and economic statuses.

You have many options when seeking help.

Consider contacting a trusted friend, a local faith-based organization or visit We Are Here MKE for information about culturally specific resources throughout Milwaukee.

If you are outside of the Milwaukee area, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline to find help near you.

National Domestic Violence Hotline
(800) 799-SAFE (7233)
TTY: (800) 787-3224

For family & friends:

You cannot force someone you love to get help. You can:

  • Tell them you’re worried
  • Ask how you can help
  • Tell them they don’t deserve to be abused
  • Offer to watch children while someone reaches out for help
  • Send them the link to this page
  • Encourage them to talk with someone who can help, even if they don’t want to talk with you
  • Call police if someone is in immediate danger
  • Read 10 Ways to Help a Domestic Violence Survivor

It is not helpful (or safe) to:

  • Confront or threaten their abusive partner
  • Give an ultimatum
  • Tell someone to “just leave”

If you are hurting someone:

If you have harmed – or are afraid you might harm – your partner or your family, please seek help. It is never OK to hurt others.

Ask yourself the following: Do I …

  • Hit, slap, push, pull hair or choke my partner?
  • Often feel jealous?
  • Believe I have the right to know what my partner is doing and where they are at all times?
  • Call or text my partner constantly and get mad if they don’t respond?
  • Enjoy seeing my partner in pain, crying or hurt?
  • Break or destroy my partner’s belongings?
  • Feel afraid of asking for help because I might lose everything that’s important to me?
  • Think about “getting even” with my partner?
  • Twist things around, lie or exaggerate to make my partner doubt their thoughts or feelings?

If you answered yes to any of the questions above, it’s important to get help. Addressing the cause of your behavior will take time, but if you want a healthy relationship, you need to make the commitment.

Alma Center

The Alma Center works to heal, transform and address the unresolved pain of trauma that fuels the continuation of cycles of violence, abuse and dysfunction in families and communities.

They work primarily with men at-risk or those involved in the criminal justice system, with a particular focus on men who have a history of domestic violence. Learn more at almacenter.org.

About Sojourner

Refuge, respite, healing & hope

Sojourner is the most comprehensive provider of domestic violence prevention and intervention services in Wisconsin.

Our 53-bed shelter provides safety and stability for survivors of domestic violence. On-site Advocates walk with survivors on their journey of healing and rebuilding their lives.

We offer support to survivors as they file police reports and restraining orders and connect them with needed services and resources.

Within our innovative Family Peace Center building, survivors can easily access legal, healthcare and social services provided by 13 community partners, including the Milwaukee Police Department, Children’s Wisconsin and Milwaukee Public Schools — all located together under one roof.

Crisis Shelter & Hotline

24-hour Domestic Violence Hotline

Sojourner has been designated the 24-hour Domestic Violence Hotline for the City of Milwaukee and outlying communities since 1986. Staff and volunteers speak directly with victims from the scene of domestic violence incidents investigated by the Milwaukee Police Department and 18 suburban police departments in situations that are subsequently reviewed for criminal charges by the Milwaukee County District Attorney’s office.

Advocates working our 24-Hour Domestic Violence Hotline and Textline offer information and support, and can help survivors of all ages. All conversations are confidential.
 

Call: (414) 933-2722
Text: (414) 877-8100

Sojourner Truth House Shelter

we provide shelter

Operating since 1978, our 53-bed crisis shelter offers safety to those fleeing violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking. We provide basic needs, empathy, security, and support in shelter and through our on-site and community partners.

Call us at (414) 933-2722 or text (414) 877-8100 and take the first step toward building a violence-free life.

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Plan Your Visit

Hours

  • Monday – Thursday: 8am – 6pm
  • Friday: 8am – 5pm

Address

Sojourner Family Peace Center
619 W. Walnut Street
Milwaukee, WI 53212

Main Office: (414) 276-1911

Parking

The entrance to the parking lot is on 7th Street, just south of Walnut Street. Parking is free. Street parking also is available.

Building Access

The facility is locked at all times. Visitors must use the intercom system located at the entrances off Walnut Street and the parking lot.

Bus Routes

  • 42U – North/south on 6th Street
  • 80 – North/south on 6th Street
  • 57 – East/west on Walnut Street