Warning signs
Are you in danger?
If your relationship shows unhealthy signs, you could be in danger. Below are listed some warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. To discuss your relationship problems confidentially, call or text today.
Warning signs of abuse include:
Quick involvement - The relationship is moving faster than you are comfortable with.
Controlling behavior - Your partner can “sweet talk” you into doing things that you are not comfortable doing.
Jealousy/possessiveness - Your partner checks up on you, makes unfounded accusations and often questions you about where you were and who you were with.
Cruelty to animals - Sometimes, abusive people take out their anger and frustrations on innocent animals.
Uses of force - Your partner holds you down, pushes, shoves, slaps, kicks, and/or hits you.
Call 911 if you are in immediate danger. Call or text us at any time to talk with an Advocate.
Confidential, free risk assessments, information and referral services available.
24-hour domestic violence hotline
Call: (414) 933-2722
Text: (414) 877-8100
Healthy relationship test
Compare your relationship with the following statements by answering true or false.
Actions speak louder than words. In my relationship, promises are made and kept.
In my relationship, we are patient with each other. We are always getting to know each other better.
Both my partner and I have friends outside of our relationship with whom we keep in touch.
I never have to worry about being physically or sexually harmed in my relationship.
I can be myself. My partner does not tell me how to dress or where I can go.
In my relationship, we do not dwell on past mistakes. We learn from them and move on.
My relationship is not free of problems, but we have the ability to work them out in a healthy way.
In my relationship we are open and honest and allow space for each other to grow.
In my relationship we disagree, but disagreements never turn abusive.
If you answered true to all the statements, congratulations! Your relationship is healthy. If you answered false to any of the statements, your relationship is showing unhealthy signs.
This quiz was developed by Sojourner Family Peace Center Community Education staff. To arrange a presentation on domestic violence made to your church, school, office, workplace, group or club, please contact us at (414) 276-1911. If your relationship shows unhealthy signs, you could be in danger. To discuss your relationship problems confidentially, call (414) 933-2722.
Are you being Sexually exploited?
Sexual exploitation is sexual abuse through the exchange of sex or sexual acts for drugs, food, shelter, protection, other basics of life, and/or money. Sexual exploitation also includes involving children and youth in creating pornography and sexually explicit websites.
This can happen to children, youth and adults, males and females. Very often, the person who is doing the exploitation is known to the person being exploited. It can be a family member, friend, neighbor, or even a boyfriend or husband.
If you think that you’ve been abused in any way, including being sexually exploited or sexually abused, there is help. Call (414) 933-2722 to speak with an Advocate who can help you understand what has happened and what options are available to you.
Are you at risk for being killed?
In the U.S. at least 1/3 of domestic violence-related murders had no reported history of physical abuse.
Domestic violence-related homicide victims are often isolated from friends and family, contributing to surprise or suddenness expressed by others. Are you or someone you love at risk of being killed?